Mathematics is the science of recognising, understanding, appreciating, creating and using patterns in day-to-day life, business, sciences, work life, and technology.
In this two-part reflection, we explore how parents can play a pivotal role—for better or worse—in shaping their child’s relationship with mathematics. The first part addresses common unintended mistakes that cause long-term damage, while the second part outlines practical and loving ways to encourage mathematical confidence and joy.
❌ What Parents Should Avoid
In Indian society, joint families are still not uncommon. There are often many people in a child’s life “taking care” of them—each with different ways of influencing or interfering with growth and learning. Often, the responsibility of guiding a child’s studies, particularly in mathematics, is delegated to one adult, and their beliefs can deeply shape the child’s perception of the subject.
Here are some common parental patterns that unintentionally harm:
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Negative self-references: Parents often say, “I was never good at maths,” or share horror stories about their own teachers. This seeds fear in children even before they start.
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Score comparison: Comparing marks with siblings or friends crushes motivation and self-worth. Some children bloom later—like during algebra—and need patience, not pressure.
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Public reprimand: Scolding children for math scores in family events or PTMs can cause deep emotional resistance. Some kids stop trying altogether.
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Excessive expectations: Constantly demanding top performance puts undue psychological strain, especially when combined with social shame and comparison.
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Pushing young children into tuitions: Forcing 3- or 4-year-olds into academic coaching under peer pressure is both unnecessary and harmful.
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Wrong-fit learning paths: Many parents, caught in societal trends, admit artistically inclined children into IIT coaching—leading to disastrous emotional outcomes.
Are you or a friend facing such dilemmas?
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✅ What Parents Can Do
Let’s now explore how parents can create a healthy learning environment for their children—particularly in mathematics.
Here are some ways to nurture confidence:
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Give quality time: Your presence means more than perfection. Engage in discussions and be emotionally available.
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Encourage a routine: A simple study schedule gives structure and calm.
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Talk about the future: Connect education to opportunities, dreams, and purpose—beyond marks and exams.
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Attend school meetings: Be visible in your child’s academic world.
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Use love and common sense: You don’t need advanced degrees to support learning. Just empathy and attentiveness.
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